Can you believe it’s already November? Holy moly! This weekend we got out of the box of our routine and drove to Big Bear with the twins. We loved seeing the Fall colors. Quite an adventure!
This week’s post is a little short, a little humorous and quite cute (since my 2 favorite 15 months starred in today’s video) — AND it also offers a powerful kick in the kadoodle — if you know what I mean.
Being creatures of comfort, it’s certainly easier to be, do and think in the ways we always have. As children, we adopt habits of thought that shape our lives. It may have kept us safe in those early years, but just like the walls of a box is confining — so are certain thoughts.
One of my coaching clients is doing deep inner work these days. You know how loving relationships can turn our insides upside down and confront parts of our box, right? Maybe you’ve been there too.
So, she’s questioning and challenging her most painful thoughts, using “The Work” of Byron Katie and my coaching support — to find, keep and deepen that sweet spot of inner peace. Diving into our pain and confronting the thoughts lining the edges of our box takes courage, commitment and patience. It’s NOT easy. But, each week she’s making powerful strides on the path to true emotional freedom.
Trust me, it’s SO worth it!
As is almost always the case, it’s not the circumstances that are painful. It’s the stories and thoughts we have about them that are.
We discovered certain thoughts prevent her from reaching out to the man she loves and taking action.
“I can’t call him.” (HE has to call me if he’s interested.)
“If I reach out to him, he’ll reject me.”
“I never be in love again.”
“I don’t know how to love myself.”
“The relationship is over.” (well maybe, maybe not)
We might call this “in the box” thinking 🙂 It prevents her from calling him and reaching out to him. It paints a future of sadness. It blocks self love from being recognized or received. It’s limiting the quality time they could be spending together.
And, it’s costing her lots and lots of anguish.
She’s not the only one with restrictive and painful thinking. We all do it. It’s confining. It impedes relationships. It limits our potential. And, it squashes inner peace in the kadoodle.
Most of us are comfortable enough with our “in the box” thinking that we don’t even recognize we’re “in the box.”
I know you’re all about personal growth, so let me ask you, “How are you ‘in the box?'”
* What thoughts or stories keep you trapped in your box?
* And what resides outside the box? (HINT: freedom, joy, fulfillment, inner peace, business success, true intimacy?)
Today’s video is a little demonstration of getting out of the box. ENJOY.
Here’s to getting outside the box,
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