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WOW! Two and a half months of 2007 is now behind us!! Poof!!! Where have these months gone?? Have you been cherishing the last 72 days...or was part, or all of it, a blur? Today's feature article explores where we "check out," "go unconscious", or otherwise miss segments of our life. I believe nearly EVERY problem in our lives can be attributed to living in some sort of "unconscious" or "trance-like" state. AND, nearly EVERY solution can be solved with CONSCIOUS ATTENTION and CHOICE. I invite you now ...to give y our full attention to this issue of SoulFULLY Living.
A Tribute to
Laura Whitworth, CPCC, MCC
1947 - 2007
One of the great founders and leaders of the coaching industry passed away on February 28, 2007. She was at 39,000 feet flying back to her home after learning that her liver was failing; she had been in a long and arduous fight with lung cancer. As Karen Kimsey-House shared, "In true Laura fashion, once she got clear about the direction that she was traveling, she didn’t waste any time. I like to think that she just got high up in the air and decided to keep going." There will be much to grieve, celebrate and honor in the days and weeks to come.
Laura was a real example of living life with gusto, consciously and intentionally. She was serious about making an impact in the lives of every person she interacted with. She was instrumental in creating the curriculum which ultimately certified thousands of coaches, going on to affect thousands of clients. I'm also deeply honored she endorsed my book so graciously.
In the last issue of SoulFULLY Living, I used a phrase ..."No shit, No kidding." (And, some thought the language was offensive. My apology...and here's the explanation). This was a phrase I heard Laura use on several occasions when working with someone around a goal or commitment. So often we make a commitment without fully being present with it. The "no sh-t, no kidding" phrase jarred people, awakening every cell of their being to get behind this goal or commitment "for real." I still use this phrase with clients. "Thank you Laura for all the big and little contributions you've made to this world. "No sh-t, no kidding"...you lived an exemplary life."
Conversations with the Masters
Adyashanti
My husband and I have now had two opportunities to attend Satsangs with Adyashanti in Northern California. We're also signed up for a 5-Night silent retreat in late April. I'm truly honored to be hosting Adyashanti on Tuesday, March 27th at 12 Noon Pacific (3pm Eastern) for another Conversations with the Masters. The energy and presence of Adya is palpable, and your consciousness will be affected during our hour. You may pre-register for this free call by visiting www.lifecoachmary.com/adyashanti.htm. Please spread the word.
This week's features...
Soulfully Being: The Dangers of Living UNCONSCIOUSLY. Okay, none of us like to admit it, but it's true. It's easy to live UNCONSCIOUSLY, at least some of the time. Maybe "trance-like" state is the more accurate description, since technically we aren't asleep...or are we? Explore how "unconsciousness" is at the root of virtually EVERY one of your challenges.
Soulful Spotlight: In Loving Memory of Laura Whitworth. Each of you has been touched by the life of Laura Whitworth. She was one of the key influences in my decision to become a life coach. Each of the trainings she lead for me, left a vivid impact. I know I am just one of many whose life is richer as a result of knowing Laura Whitworth. Learn more about her contributions to the world below.
Success and Life Coaching: Success and Inner Peace Bootcamp. I am STOKED about my upcoming Bootcamp -- and there are still spaces for you to join. IF you want to up the ante on your FOCUS, SUCCESS AND INNER PEACE, this year-long program may be for you. See details below for the Top 10 Reasons to enroll today, or visit www.lifecoachmary.com/bootcamp.htm.
Wishing you all the love, joy, grace and prosperity you desire in 2007! 
Life Coach Mary, CPCC, MCC
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The DANGERS of Living UNCONSCIOUSLY.
Who me? Living unconsciously?? Yep. You. Me. We're all doing it from time to time. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I know, I know, NONE of us really want to admit to this human tendency. Why would we want to be missing our amazing lives?
Yet, we can all relate to that "trance-like" state where we're going through the motions, not 100% there. We all have our favorite or habitual places to "check-out" and go unconscious. And, here's what I've found fascinating. When we bring our full-on, conscious attention to ANY aspect of our lives...it naturally falls into greater alignment with our highest ideals and dreams. Our lives WORK, and are more fulfilling when we're fully conscious. It's our lack of attention, our "unconsciousness" that is at the root of nearly everyone of our problems.
Think about it. It's easiest to see in others. A spouse leaves their socks on the floor, doesn't take out the trash, leaves the toilet seat up or forgets to call. Or how about someone who reacts out of an unconscious pattern in the past? Or who habitually criticizes, whines or gets moody? Aren't they all little UNCONSCIOUS moments?
UNCONSCIOUS LISTENING. One of my favorite unconscious practices -- in the past -- has been "listening." Yikes!! I think this started when I was a little girl. I'd ask my dad a question, and loved listening to his voice (as I still do) -- even if I wasn't fully comprehending his brilliant answers. I just went into a trance. Somehow this "not fully listening" habit bled into other areas of my life. In past relationships, if someone was giving me an answer I didn't want to hear, I would "selectively listen." My mind would simply "bleep-out," with no comprehension of what was REALLY said. Hmmm. I wonder what it was like to be in relationship with me back then? I eventually "got present" to this nasty habit, and diligently focused on listening to every word. I brought consciousness and attention to listening. Interestingly enough, I then became a coach which requires me to attentively listen to my clients. There isn't much I miss nowadays.
Recently though I noticed myself going "unconscious" when listening to my husband!! (He noticed too :-)) Perhaps you know someone who asks a question, then doesn't fully listen to the answer. So, I'm back to consciously listening. We can't get too comfortable, or we go unconscious again!!
UNCONSCIOUS HEALTH. Another place I notice people going unconscious is around food. We get an impulse to eat a bowl of ice cream, a bag of Doritos, or a mound of cheese -- and boom -- we're on a path of high calorie in-taking. We might even be "present" to the moment we let go of control and watch ourselves continue to gorge ourselves, but are you really FULLY conscious in those moments? The dangerous "food trance." Or maybe we're at a social function and we continue to graze at the appetizer table. My greatest successes with healthy eating occur when I get FULLY CONSCIOUS to my food choices. This begins with consciously deciding WHAT I WANT to nourish my body with, and what I want to AVOID 100% (and it's essential to stay conscious AT the grocery store when making these selections). Then, I must notice WHAT I put in my mouth, how much I ENJOY it (why eat something that is high calorie AND doesn't taste that great), HOW MUCH I consume, and WHEN I become full. People rave about weight-loss programs that focus solely on "being present" with your food, and when you're full. Studies have also shown that people eat significantly more when they're with groups of people. Hmmmm. Could we become a bit more unconscious around food when there are people to distract our attention? How could getting "conscious" with food change your life?
UNCONSCIOUS with MONEY. Then, there is money. Have you ever spent money unconsciously? We all have. I think this is one reason people get into debt. The salesperson suggests an additional purchase, and you "impulsively say yes." You want to continue your lifestyle luxuries, even though they exceed your monthly income. They add up. I had a client who liked to shop when she needed a "pick-me-up," it served as a great catharsis. Maybe there is an impulse to always pick up the tab for the group. Or purchase any book or program recommendation. Or to buy anything that looks fabulous on you. When I coach people out of debt or through an income barrier, the strategy is the same. GIVE IT ATTENTION. Focus on the end result -- A LOT. Give attention to every penny spent. Give attention to increasing your income. How do the rich, get richer?? They put conscious attention on maximizing their savings, investments and earnings. Look at nearly any financial disaster, and I guarantee there was an element of unconsciousness.
UNCONSCIOUS YOU. Where do you go unconscious around your own needs, wants and desires? Are you responding to YOU? When we ignore our passions and desires, or take little action toward them, the result is depression and frustration. When we're not fully conscious, it's super easy to get caught up in limiting beliefs about ourselves or disconnect from our power. When we're unconscious, it's also easier to make mistakes, forget where we've left something, or procrastinate on an important dream. Show me someone who is fully self-expressed and living their dreams, and I'll show you someone who knows who they are --and is happily fulfilled.
FOCUSED ATTENTION
Books, symphonies and movies get written because of FOCUSED attention. Businesses get started and thrive when FOCUSED attention is given. Relationships flourish with FOCUSED attention. Health thrives with FOCUSED attention. Every aspect of life becomes more fulfilling with FOCUSED attention. Magic moments, sex (oh, yes!), sunsets, watching children play, working out, drive-time, showers, cleaning, eating, listening, learning and creating ALL become sweeter and more fulfilling when FOCUSED attention is present. Is it really that simple? Simply put, yes.
With FOCUSED attention you'll notice what is working and what is NOT working...and you'll make the needed adjustments. Just don't go "unconscious" after deciding about a new course of action. It's ongoing FOCUS and attention that makes the difference.
Did you see the movie "Click"? With Adam Sandler? I spoke about it a few months ago. In the movie, Adam (I forget his character's name) gets this special remote control that allows him to "fast-forward" through parts of his life...to get to the "successful moments" more quickly. Seems like a great idea in the beginning, but then he realizes he's missing LOTS of great moments. Where do you fast forward through segments in your life? Eating? Spending? Watching TV? Self-care? Procrastination? Connecting or listening to others? Showering? Walking the dog? Cleaning? Sex?
Is it really dangerous to live unconsciously? Ask the man or woman who has inadvertently gained 300 pounds. Ask the family who is carrying $75,000 in credit card debt. Ask man or woman who spent 20 years living unconsciously, and is now on the brink of divorce. Ask your heart.
Life is short. Choose wisely. Choose consciously. Consciously live all the way to the finish line. |
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In Loving Memory:
Laura Whitworth, CPCC, MCC
We have lost a friend, a teacher, a visionary, a fighter for life, hers and ours.
After a long and dedicated battle with lung cancer, our beloved co-founder Laura Whitworth died today, February 28, 2007.
We grieve her passing at the same time we celebrate her extraordinary life. That, after all, was what Laura was all about: Life. Fully lived. She was fierce for that and unrelenting. And with that stake she changed the world, yours and mine. If you are reading this you are one of thousands around the world whose life is different because of her.
We will post more information about ways to honor Laura's life as information is available. For now, please feel free to respond to Laura's blog: http://laurawhitworth.blogspot.com
With deep sadness,
Karen and Henry Kimsey-House
Co-Founders of Coaches Training Institute
ABOUT LAURA WHITWORTH:
Laura Whitworth, CPCC and MCC co-founded the Coaches Training Institute (CTI), and Co-Active Space Leadership Program. Laura was one of the world's most accomplished and renowned coaches. A former CPA, she co-authored the book, Co-Active Coaching, a best-seller addressing the skills and practice of coaching.
A professional coach, she worked with individuals, groups, teams, and organizations toward greater productivity and effectiveness. In 1997, she was named one of the ten most influential coaches by Professional Coach Journal.
As a frequent keynote speaker, Laura co-founded The Bigger Game Company which delivers programs focusing on coaching and training leaders. Through a non-profit organization, she took Co-Active Coaching into federal and state prisons where it has had a profound and transformational impact on the lives of prisoners.
Prior to embarking on a coaching career in 1989, Laura was a Peace Corps Volunteer in Nepal, a CPA with Arthur Andersen & Company, an Administrative Vice President at an advertising agency and an Alaskan Bush outfitter and explorer.
A founding member of the Personal and Professional Coaches Association, which merged with the International Coaches Federation (ICF), she was on the Board of Directors for the International Association of Professional/Personal Coaches.
Laura graduated cum laude, from the College of Business and Management at the University of Maryland.
Founding the Coaching Industry
On my website, I included a piece about how the coaching industry was founded. This summary came from a conversation with Laura in her living room when I first met her back in 1998. While Thomas Leonard is often credited as the founder of the coaching industry...Laura was equally responsible for the evolution of this industry. She was quite humble. She was quite something.
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Year Long FOCUS and Support
The Succes and Inner Peace Bootcamp
(...and Top 10 Reasons to
Join the Bootcamp)
The Success and Inner Peace Bootcamp is back! I'm looking for highly committed individuals who want to participate actively in a dynamic group setting over the next 12 months. This is a fast-paced, yet deep and spiritual program that will challenge you to REALIZE your goals, and more importantly DEEPEN your awareness and sense of inner peace. If you value your "inner peace" as much as your success, this program may be for you. You'll want to bring your own depth of commitment to the program, and when you do, you'll be rewarded in ways you'd never expect.
To learn more about the program visit www.lifecoachmary.com/bootcamp.htm.
This is a year long interactive coaching and life mastery program. Weekly exercises & tools, thought-provoking discussions, concentrated FOCUS on your top goals and interaction with a community of like-minded individuals will challenge out the best of you in 2007. Make the inner and outer shifts necessary to realize BOTH SUCCESS and INNER PEACE. Group size is limited. I'm beginning TWO new Bootcamps, so there is still space for you. Tuesdays at 1pm Pacific (4pm Eastern) and Tuesdays at 4pm Pacific (7pm Eastern). This is an affordable option for a year of accountability, coaching support and concentrated growth for those who want to make 2007 spectacular.
Top 10 Reasons to Join the Bootcamp...
1. You have BIG GOALS this year. There are multiple areas in your life you'd like to work on -- career, relationships, health, finances, time management, organization, emotional well being and spirituality. You want it all...haven't quite got it all mastered, and want to get closer (knowing that "having it all" is always a work in progress).
2. You know the power of FOCUS, but aren't as consistent as you'd like. A structured program may just be perfect for you.
3. It would be deliriously FUN to work with a group of like-minded individuals to celebrate your breakthroughs and successes along the way and keep you inspired, supported and challenged throughout the year.
4. You've been a student of personal and spiritual growth for awhile, and you can't wait a minute longer to finally integrate what you "know" at a deeper level so you can live your most extraordinary life!
5. You'd like to hire Mary as your coach, but simultaneously want to conserve cash. You KNOW the value of coaching and added accountability and want the benefits! Besides you've heard Mary gives ridiculously fabulous support to her Bootcamp participants. Does she ever sleep?
6. You value your inner peace as much as your outer successes. You may feel conflicted at times, but you KNOW having both is possible and you KNOW (deep down) you deserve both.
7. Integrity and being "authentically you" is very important. You're not willing to compromise who you are in the process of achieving your goals.
8. You have a copy of Mary's book The Power of Inner Choice, yet haven't fully digested and integrated each of the twelve lessons into your life, but you'd like to.
9. You wouldn't normally respond to a "list like this," but this unique year long "bootcamp" is attractive to you and resonates with you at your core. You don't want to miss out.
10. You're REALLY, REALLY ready to do whatever it takes to make the next 12 months an incredibly prosperous, happy and extraordinary year. You refuse to settle for an average year. You're COMMITTED to YOU. "No sh-t, no kidding!!"
Is your curiosity peaked? If so, review the Bootcamp Invitation above. If the program resonates for you, email me and request the Bootcamp Questionnaire and Application. After I receive your completed paperwork, we'll schedule a time to speak over the phone to determine if the Success and Inner Peace Bootcamp is a great fit for you, and for the group! |
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