Welcome to SoulFULLY Living #77...
(Click for HTML Version - www.lifecoachmary.com/issue77.htm)  Welcome New Subscribers! You may view ISSUE #1 at www.lifecoachmary.com/issue1.htm. Click HERE for archived issues. Soulfully Living's intention is to deliver inspiring ideas, articles and resources that positively impact the quality of your life.  Here we are in MID-SUMMER and MID-YEAR.  How is your year going? I know many of you are up to big things this year. Post honeymoon and post book tour, I've been refocusing myself on fresh goals and new projects. It's really true, when we really, really FOCUS on what we desire and consciously choose thoughts and feelings that align with our desired outcomes...magic happens.Many of you may have already heard about or seen the DVD called "The Secret." Someone in one of the Bootcamps mentioned it months ago. Then, one of my clients showed it to his entire company (and I coach about 9 of them), and they were inspired. "The Secret" is all about the "Laws of Attraction." Sometimes I like to discount the potency of how our thoughts affect our reality. Yet, I've repeatedly seen it at work in my life. To help us all understand, and more importantly, APPLY the Laws of Attraction to our lives, I've included an article written by Eva Gregory in today's issue. I also highly recommend ordering "The Secret." For those interested in applying the "Laws of Attraction" more deeply in your life, I've arranged for a private conference call with experts Eva Gregory and Jeanna Gabellini -- for a fraction of what they normally charge. Jeanna and Eva have interviewed nearly half of the experts featured in "The Secret" and have been successfully teaching the Laws of Attraction for years! (They have also been my Mastermind Buddies for nearly 7 years.) They'll be kicking off my new conference call series, "Conversations with the Experts" on Tuesday, August 22nd at 12 noon. Click Here to Register.I would love to support you in accelerating the results and inner peace you experience in the second half of 2006. There are several options. 1) Take advantage of my introductory coaching session rate of $50 and/or become a personal client. Several new spaces in my coaching practice have recently opened up. 2) Join one of the upcoming Bootcamps beginning in August. 3) Tap into one of my new series: Conversations with the Experts (more coming!) or The Monthly Choice (begins in October). 5) Tap into upcoming Conversations with the Masters (more coming!). 6)  Read Power of Inner Choice. Even if you don't tap into one of these resources, I wish you added momentum and excitement in pursuit your desires over the final five months of 2006.

This week's features...

Abundance Abounds: The Laws of Attraction. Three laws. They are affecting us whether we are aware of them or not. They are affecting us whether we BELIEVE in them or not. Our thoughts, feelings and energy shape our reality. Learn what these three laws are about, and allow these laws to work even more powerfully in your own life. This is a feature article written by coach and author, Eva Gregory.Magic Moments: Chance Meeting? I've been waiting to share this rather personal magic moment, because I didn't want to jinx it. You'll understand why. It's a great example of the Laws of Attraction in Action.  

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The Laws Of Attraction are:

1. The Law Of Attraction
2. The Law Of Deliberate Creation
3. The Law Of Allowing

1. The Law Of Attraction

This is the first and most fundamental of the Laws Of Attraction. Are you aware of what a powerful creator you are? Do you know that everything that is happening to you or has ever happened to you is, without exception, in full response to your thoughts - and more importantly - the emotions behind those thoughts? Take a look at your life. There are probably some areas you're really happy with and some areas you're not so happy with. You may even believe you're a victim of your circumstances. I'm here to tell you, you are not a victim! It's simply a matter of understanding how to play the Game (of Life) by understanding the rules...the Laws that define the Game.

Would you agree that whether you believe in the law of gravity or not, it exists? It is the same with Universal Laws Of Attraction. They exist and affect you whether you are aware of them or not. However, Universal Laws are far more powerful than gravity. Gravity affects earth. Universal Laws are infinite and beyond all boundaries.

Of all the Laws, the single most powerful law is the Law of Attraction which says: "That which is likened unto itself is drawn" or more simply put, "Like attracts like". This means that what you are focused on, you draw to you. Here's how it works. When you are focused on what you want, you are attracting to you what you want. When you are focused on what you do not want, you are attracting to you what you do not want.

Okay, I can sense you rumbling out there and your thoughts are probably going something like "So if it's that simple and clear, why haven't we known this before?" Or, "I've been focused on wanting more money for years, so why hasn't it come to me?"

The Law is that simple. However, our thoughts are usually very unfocused and running in many directions at once. For example, you may say "I want a sleek new sports car". In that moment, the Universe is orchestrating circumstances and events to bring it to you. And yet, usually, in the same sentence, we sabotage ourselves by saying something like, "but I can't afford it". So, in essence, the Universal forces say, "Wait a minute. Now he says he can't afford it." And you stop the energy flow.

So, take it a step further. When you are thinking about wanting a new sports car, but feeling you can't afford it, where are you vibrating? In most cases, you are feeling lack; feeling that you want something you really can't have. Can you see how, by not understanding this Law - that our thoughts and emotions are our attraction base - we hold things away from us we could otherwise have?

Let's take the example of money. You say you've been wanting more money for as long as you've been alive. When you think of wanting more money, how do you feel about it? Happy? Elated? Or frustrated? Angry? Sad? Maybe jealous of those who do have money? In my experience, this particular subject has more people on an emotional roller-coaster than all other subjects combined. The good news is that it doesn't matter how long you've felt this way or how deeply...you can literally turn it around and begin flowing money to you by consciously and deliberately practicing the Law of Attraction through your thoughts and feelings.

Anything in your life you want to change, you can - simply by understanding the Laws of Attraction, and choosing to deliberately change your thoughts and constantly reach for the thought that feels better. The way you predominantly feel about any given subject is your barometer for knowing what your balance of thought is on that subject. The circumstances of your life is another indicator. If you're ever wondering which end of the barometer your thoughts are on, check in with your emotions. Your emotions never lie about the way you are flowing your energy.

2. The Law of Deliberate Creation

This is the second of the Laws Of Attraction. Infinite growth. Eternal change. Never-ending creation. It all begins with thought - literally. Every thought you think influences and adds to what you are experiencing. Yet most people's lives change very little. How do you account for that? I had a client say to me, "I don't understand, Eva. You're telling me I'm the creator of my experience, and there's no way I would have created this crisis in my life on purpose!" I agree! Certainly not on purpose. Definitely by default. It is the lack of understanding of Universal Laws that has us creating our lives by default. Once you understand these Laws, you can begin to create what you want in your life consciously and deliberately.

When things are going wrong in our lives, we want to deny any responsibility for creating it. And yet, until you understand the power you hold and accept responsibility for everything in your life -- the good, the bad and the ugly -- you deny your true freedom in life! You are held hostage by the wants and desires and expectations of others. And I've got news for you. There is no way possible to satisfy all the wants, desires, and expectations others project on you. It is a losing situation!

In the first law, I talked about the Law of Attraction which, simply put, means whatever you focus on you draw to you. So, if you are focused on something you do not want, you attract more of that to you. If you are focused on something you do want, you attract more of that to you. As thinking, feeling human beings we are in a constant mode of creating, whether we believe it or not. We are creators. Anything you focus on, by the Law of Attraction, you create. Without exception. Your creativity never stops. The good news is that once you understand this, you can be deliberate in your intent. You can choose thoughts about the experiences and things you do want in your life rather than thinking thoughts about what you don't want in your life. In other words, you begin to create what you want purposefully and intentionally.

The Law of Deliberate Creation is simply understanding the Law of Attraction and then consciously and deliberately choosing the thoughts and emotions that feel better. Always reach for the thought that feels better. How do you know when you're in alignment with what you want or when you're not? Check in with your emotions. Your emotions never lie!

You may ask, "Where does action come in"? Clearly, as humans, we are action-oriented beings. Yet, when we put our focus on being in action first -- being in the 'doing' first -- we are going about our creative process backwards. The natural order is to identify how you want to feel, then identify what you want from that feeling place. >From that point, you will be inspired to the right action.

Let's take an example. One of my clients wanted to increase her chiropractic business to 30 new clients per month. When we first began the process, both of us got caught up in the tactics, the goals and the how-to's of making it happen. It really got bogged down

Once I realized what was going on -- trying to make something happen before getting into alignment with it emotionally -- I checked in with her. "Karen, how does this plan feel to you?" There was an enormous amount of resistance, feelings of "should" and the feeling of having to take it all on herself, yada, yada, yada. We tossed it all out the window and began again with what felt good to her. I sent her away to do absolutely nothing over the next week except get into the feeling place of what it would be like to have 30 new clients coming in every month easily and effortlessly. She journaled and visualized what a day would feel like if clients just flowed to her. She saw them appreciating having her, and getting the relief they were looking for. She got into the feeling place of what it would be like to have the day-to-day administration handled without her having to be involved and having it be streamlined.

>From there, the inspired ideas came for the action steps that worked for her. She went to a class on a database software package that would streamline the administrative side of the business. She organized a newsletter to go out regularly and follow-up letters to be sent to prospects and past clients offering a special just for them. She even found someone else to handle it all so she could be home with her children to enjoy the planning and preparations for their Christmas holiday. Within a month, she was attracting 30 clients a month and working less in the process.

There is nothing more important than that you feel good! And from that feel-good place, you can easily create all you are wanting in your life. It is the difference in coming from a negative place, working really hard to fix what is wrong -- to being in a positive place, clear about what you want and attracting that to you easily. Most of us haven't quite gotten it yet that life is supposed to be fun! Here you are in this creative 'workshop' of incredible proportion. It is called your life. It is your job to use this time/space reality to create what you want in your imagination, get into the feeling place of it already happening, and then allow the Universe to bring about the people, places, circumstances, events and action from inspiration that allows it to become a part of your physical reality.

3. The Universal Law of Allowing

This is the third of the Laws Of Attraction. Do you think that if someone with beliefs opposed to yours gets their way, you can't have your way? Or do you believe there's room for it all? Of the three Universal Laws of Attraction, the Law of Allowing may be the most difficult one to get our hearts and minds around.

The truth is, there is freedom in allowing circumstances to be what they are and people to be who they are, whether you agree with them or not. Really. Even when it comes to poverty or war or disease.

So, how in the world do you accept situations and people that stand for something you don't? Or that want the opposite of what you want? We tend to think we can't have it both ways. So what do we do? We push back! There is a 'war on crime', a 'war on poverty', a 'war on cancer'. We have a campaign to 'Just Say No!' to drugs.

And yet, understanding the Laws of Attraction -- that whatever you are focused on you attract more of -- when you are focused on what you do not want in an effort to defeat it or resist it, you are not allowing what you do want to flow to you.

When you say yes to something, you attract more of that into your life, because that is what you are focused on. When you say no to something, you attract more of that into your life, because that is what you are focused on. So in order to allow what you want to flow to you, you must allow others to focus on what they want - even if you don't agree with it.

In other words, be consciously selective about where you choose to focus your attention. Rather than going into resistance about something you don't want or don't agree with, flip your thoughts around to what you do want and make 'Just Say Yes!' your slogan.

Allow what you want to come to you by yes'ing your way through life. 'Just Say Yes' to abundance. 'Just Say Yes' to great relationships. 'Just Say Yes' to a healthy body. 'Just Say Yes' to work that you love. Get the picture? Your job is to simply identify what you want, get into the feeling place of having it and then allow it to flow to you by holding your focus there.

When you understand these Laws Of Attraction principles and put them to use consciously and deliberately, you put yourself in a place of non-resistance. How do you know if you're allowing? By noticing how you feel. Your emotions are always your guide. Whenever you are in a place of feeling good, you are in a place of allowing. Nothing is more important than that you feel good! 

Magic Moments: A chance meeting or The Laws of Attraction in Action? Hmmm.

It was July 1, 2004. I had been dating a gentleman who was going through a divorce after ending another turbulent, lesson-filled relationship. The day had come. It was time to cut the ties, and move on. 

I was very serious about this. I went to my bodyworker who does phenomenal energy work, and asked her firmly, 'Please cut the ties I have with Mr. X. And, while you're at it, cut the ties with Mr. Y.' I went on, 'For that matter, cut the ties with ANY man I may possibly have an attachment to. Cut them all.' Maryann did her magic, as I relaxed comfortably on her massage table. Towards the end of our session she asked me to name five qualities I'd like to attract in the man. I named a few. I didn't think much of this step, as I was simply glad to be free of the past relationships.

That day was my friend Elizabeth's birthday party. Bocci Ball and dancing. I skipped Bocci Ball, to avoid a run-in with Mr. X. I got my nails done, then happened to run into a girlfriend immediately afterwards, conveniently giving me someone to share a few glasses of wine and commiserate in my newfound singleness.

Later join Elizabeth and the group for dancing. I was sipping Lemon Drops with abandon. Somehow I ended up in a conversation with a guy named John and his buddy Sam. Within minutes of our brief encounter, Elizabeth came up to me and whispered, 'This is John Cole, the guy I wanted to introduce you in January.'

I glanced squarely at John. I looked back at Elizabeth. I looked at John again, feeling a certain presence through his eyes. I looked back at Elizabeth, and in a very "matter-of-fact" manner with a nod of my head, I said, 'I LIKE HIM.' 

John and I spoke throughout the evening, as he strategically purchased Lemon Drops. He impressed me with both his parents being in the CIA, attending WestPoint, and sailing for 2 years to New Zealand. Of course, the real cincher was stumbling across a shared passion for Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged. The next day I happened to notice the sheet of paper in the back seat of my car. Maryann had carefully written the five key qualities I had mentioned the day before.  I thought to myself, "no...couldn't be, could it?"  

Being the Thursday before 4th of July weekend, John invited me to join he and Sam on his sailboat in Santa Cruz. I felt so at ease in John's company. As we were walking to the Crow's Nest, I looked at him and had the silent and curious thought, 'You're going to marry me, aren't you?' ( Interesting how thoughts appear). There was no attachment. Just a calm openness, and willingness to take it one day at a time.Exactly one year later, John and I were engaged. On May 5, 2006 John and I married. Last month we celebrated our "chance" meeting on that July 1st -- two years ago. Laws of Attraction in action...I love it.

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