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WELCOME NEW Subscribers!! Hope you enjoyed a fabulous Thanksgiving with your family and loved ones, and are preparing for the upcoming holidays with enthusiasm. There have been 40 issues of Soulfully Living, and numerous favorite articles over the past two years. I've included an NEW INDEX to the right with links to past issues, so you can easily access missed articles that resonate with you. ENJOY!!
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Soulfully Being - 10 Keys to Accessing Peace. In past issues, I've talked repeatedly about accessing the emotional state of "peace". Issue #8 encouraged you to "Make Peace Your #1 Goal". When we live in peace we are connected to our greatest power, easily attract our desires, and it's fulfilling!!! Most people are more adept at being stressed, overwhelmed and frustrated, than accessing PEACE. Yet, we innately know PEACE is a more empowering choice. So, how do you return to PEACE when life offers challenges? How do you access peace when you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, frustrated or depressed? Learning how to access peace easily is one of the keys to living a powerful life of choice. Below you'll discover 10 Keys to Accessing Peace. By practicing each of these keys over time, you'll become a master at enjoying one of the most empowering emotions in life. (Edited from a portion of one of the Living in Choice eCourse Lessons)
Adopt-an-Emotion - GRATITUDE. In the spirit of Thanksgiving, gratitude and appreciation has risen to the forefront of everyone's minds. Adopting the emotion of gratitude is fulfilling, and supports us in more easily attracting our desires. The challenge this week is to expand your feelings of gratitude in every context of your life. A host of powerful ideas are included below.
Living in Choice - Over the last three months 20 individuals participated in my new Living in Choice eCourse program. I'm absolutely thrilled with the individual and group feedback!! The content was rich and the exercises were potent. We were all inspired as each participant integrated the lessons into their lives. The course empowers individuals to embrace personal power through choice. Because the program was so well received, in January I'm offering TWO versions of the course...both a 12 Week Teleclass Series and a 16 Week Coaching eCourse Series, which includes 4 Group Coaching Calls. Click HERE for more details. Special pricing available when you register before December 31st.
"This e-course has you look into the most important issues of our life. Mary has designed a manual for inner peace that should be given to us as soon as we are old enough to read! Bravo! I recommend this course to anyone who wants to master their emotions and be present in the now to see life more vibrantly!" -- Jeanna Gabellini, MCC and graduate of the Living in Choice eCourse.
Peace, Love and Joy, 
Mary Allen, CPCC, PCC
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10 Paths to Accessing Peace
Accessing peace is essential to expanding our ability to receive and live fulfilling lives. Therefore, the quicker and more easily you can return to peace, the better. Below are 10 strategies to utilize when you would like to consciously increase feelings of peace inside of you, whether you are in turmoil or already at peace.
1. BEING PRESENT. Find the stillness in the moment. The simplest path to peace is being present to the NOW. When we are present, we are at peace.
2. APPRECIATION. Appreciation is a fast and effective way to raise your energy vibration, and reconnect to the abundance in your life. Allow yourself to appreciate. When you're feeling un-resourceful, start with little things to appreciate. Your eyes, ears, health, a house to live in, family and aliveness. Allow your feelings of appreciation to expand and deepen. What are you receiving in your life? What do you appreciate right now? Write it down. Allow the feelings of peace to expand and deepen. You can also feel appreciation for what is coming to you in the future, by practicing feeling "gratitude in advance". A respected coach I know asks her clients "what they are grateful for" next week? She's reports that 90% of the time, they receive what they express "gratitude in advance" for. Appreciation, appreciation, appreciation...it simply leads to peace.
3. ACCEPT REALITY. To access peace, it's essential to learn to recognize and ACCEPT reality for what it is, no more and no less. The birds are flying. The clock is ticking. The dog is barking. I have a flat tire. Someone said "no". I burned dinner. My appointment didn't show. I didn't get what I wanted in this moment. I didn't make the progress I desired. The sky is blue. It's raining. Whatever REALITY is...is simply that. There is nothing inherently "good" or "bad" about reality. It's only the meaning we place on it.
Peace is aligning with
'what is',
and NOT resisting it.
4. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. Part of accepting reality is owning your actions, non-actions, and reactions. Take responsibility for your life. In avoiding responsibility, the resulting impact is feeling like a victim, that life is happening to us and that takes us out of our peace. Taking responsibility for a desire means taking action, recommitting to a task, or scheduling it. If you acted unconsciously, then take responsibility by becoming "conscious", and making a new conscious choice. If you reacted to another, own your reactions. Look within. Perhaps you can find a "truth" or piece of reality that you've been resisting or unwilling to look at. Perhaps you owe someone an apology. Look within. Get humble. Own your reactions. Own your choices. Own your life. Own your peace.
5. MOVEMENT. The quickest way to shift any emotion is through movement or action. Breathe. Walk around the block. Exercise. Jump up and down. Take an inspired action to progress toward a goal. Movement shifts energy. Create the space for a new emotional state of being to emerge. Movement is a pathway back to peace.
6. LOVING YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY. As we love and accept ourselves unconditionally, we access peace. We are our single most reliable sources of love, because we can always CHOOSE to love ourselves unconditionally. It's simply a matter of practice. I met a very special lady in the "healing profession", and her words branded me for life. "If everyone could just learn to love themselves to pieces". Love is one of life's greatest medicines, and we need to administer to ourselves - generously. Loving ourselves is foundational to living life, and accessing peace. When we love ourselves, we take greater care of ourselves, and make clearer decisions that propel our highest good. If you're like most people you haven't practiced giving yourself "unconditional love", and will need to exercise this emotional muscle. I used to think, "of course I love myself". I've since realized that it's one thing to say it, it's another to LIVE IT. When you love yourself you are kind, responsive, forgiving and appreciative -- to yourself. When you love yourself your heart smiles, and the world is lighter. As we access love, we access peace.
7. ELIMINATE STRESSFUL THOUGHTS. Every dis-empowering emotional state is a result of a stressful thought. In the absence of a stressful thought is PEACE. There is a simple process called "Inquiry", that allows people to consistently release stressful thoughts, and return to a state of peace. It is the most effective tool I know of to deal powerfully with stressful thoughts. Byron Katie is the author of "Loving What Is", and originated what she calls "the work" and "inquiry". "Inquiry" allows us to examine our thoughts more closely. As one recognizes that many of the thoughts which bring us turmoil, are simply "made-up" and have no basis in reality, the thoughts disappear. When we "attach to certain" stressful thoughts, we experience a host of debilitating emotions and this takes us out of peace. Listen to the "Loving What Is" CD's to learn how to effectively eliminate stressful thoughts and access peace anytime you choose.
8. FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. Sometimes emotions creep up on us unexpectedly, and it feels nearly impossible to "consciously choose" anything other that what is consuming our "emotional reality". Rest assured, there is always a path back to peace. Whether you're feeling gripped with sadness, anger, frustration, overwhelm, depression or fear, the path to peace is simply to "feel your feelings" FULLY. If you're feeling sad, allow the tears to flow. Cry. Sob. Weep. Let the emotion of sadness consume you, and fill every cell in your body. Surrender into the feeling, expanding it inside of you. Don't resist it, embrace it. The more intensely you allow the emotion to be expressed, the more quickly you will be freed of it. Peace is the result of "feeling your feelings fully". Typically, we sense an emotion like sadness, anger or frustration, and we RESIST it - not allowing its full expression. Whatever you resist, persists. So, when you're feeling stuck in a heavy emotion, simply surrender and FEEL your way back to peace.
Deflecting a dis-empowering emotion on the front end, is the optimal choice. Getting present, stepping into appreciation, accepting reality, taking responsibility and making a new powerful choice are all effective in returning to peace. However, if we aren't quick enough, we MUST EXPERIENCE the emotion FULLY to release it.
Example - I've practiced this many times, and am always amazed at the results. My favorite "feel your feelings fully" shares are when I've slipped into "anger or frustration", and instead of resisting it, I decide to play full-out and fully express it. Do this on your own, or with the support of someone. It's about releasing the emotion, NOT directing it toward someone. First, I acknowledge and own, "I'm angry". Then I allow that feeling to be present. With anger, frustration or depression, I find that EXAGGERATING it helps as I mock it in a playful way. Sometimes I make a growling sound like a bear or lion. I find that within seconds, I'm laughing at myself. I try to return to the emotion by growling again. I look for more anger, and can't find it. This is a powerful path back to peace. Try it.
9. NATURE - There is something about nature that breeds peace. Whether you're with the mountains, ocean, a park, a tree, flowers, a backyard, a nature trail or simply outside - peace is the naturally occurring state, as you resonate with its beauty. Nature represents oneness. It's vast and beautiful. Getting present to the beauty, complexity and perfect harmony of nature, is effective at reconnecting one to peace.
10. "ALL IS WELL". This is one phrase that I find brings me back to peace more than any other. It's simply the truth. Inside of "all is well", we are ONE, connected with the Universe, with unlimited potential. Allow "all is well" to affect your being and bring you back to peace. I'm always amazed at how quickly peaceful outcomes follow the thought of "all is well". Embrace the mantra of "all is well" when you find yourself disconnected from peace. As you embrace the truth in these words, notice how peace returns. |
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| GRATITUDE - Since Thanksgiving was last week, gratitude is the perfect emotion to adopt. Gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness and appreciation. Appreciation and gratitude are interchangeable. In gratitude there is acceptance, love and acknowledgment of "what is". In gratitude there is spaciousness and connectedness.
APPLICATION - Appreciate the moment. Appreciate your strengths and weaknesses. Appreciate who you are, a unique being with personality and soul. Appreciate the gifts and challenges in your life. Appreciate your work, income, clients, employer, employees and referrals. Appreciate your health, your body, your senses, your ability to walk and live. Appreciate the acts of kindness and contribution you offer others, and that others contribute to you. Appreciate others unique qualities, their foibles, quirks and gifts. Appreciate your environment, your neighborhood, city, state, country and planet. Appreciate the government for providing a structure that strives for order, safety, education, services and justice. Appreciate the entertainers, the artists, the business owners and entrepreneurs, laymen, doctors, lawyers, dentists, massage therapists, dry cleaners, yoga teachers, manufacturers, farmers, teachers, executives, cab drivers, salesmen, managers, photographers, wedding planners, electricians and garbage collectors. Appreciate freedom, free-trade, the stock market, opportunity, creativity and choice. Appreciate joy, love, peace, kindness, humility, forgiveness, truth, honesty, integrity, knowledge, wisdom and grace. Appreciate your stressful thoughts for expanding your awareness and allowing you to discover the truth. Appreciate the thoughts that allow joy and bliss to electrify your being. Appreciate your vulnerability, your humanity and your willingness to grow and learn. |
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SoulFully Living INDEX
Soulfully Being
Being Fully Present
5 Minutes of Doing Nothing
Making Peace Your #1 Goal
Power vs. Force
Energy Vibration
Acceptance
Happy Flying
The Power of CHOICE
The Power of Acknowledgment
Accepting YOU or EGO
Loving What Is
Selfless Contribution
Spirit vs. Ego
Balance
Adopt-an-Emotion
Joy
Peace
Compassion
Curiosity
Humility
FULLY Connected
Acknowledgment
Smiling at Strangers
101 Night of Grrrrreat Romance
The 6 Key HAI Principles
What I appreciate about you...
The 5 Love Languages
Making Stuff Up
Keeping Balance in Family
Are you coming from love?
Are you really AVAILABLE?
Truth Telling Game
Special Days
Healthy Inside and Out
Water, Water, Water
Body for Life
The Importance of Body Work
12 Tips for Body for Life
Tip #1 - Deciding
Tip#2 - Why?
Tip #3 - Tracking Reality
Tip#4 - Water
Tip #5 - Cardio
Bikram Yoga
Abundance Abounds
Bijan's Formula for Manifesting
Empowering Environments
Move 21 Items
Lighting a Red Candle
Enhancing Romance with Feng Shui
TIP: Removing Wax from Carpet
Fresh Flowers
Tips on MOVING IN
Virus Alert
Soulful Spotlight
Emotional Muscles
The Zen Move
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