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5 Keys for Creating Balance in a Relationship...especially if you have a family.  1. Always make time for just the two of you (WITHOUT FAMILY).  Whether it's 5 minutes, or dinner, or a week away on vacation.....get away.  This also means taking "personal intimate" time.  Let the kids know "Mommy and Daddy" are taking time, and close the bedroom door.  I KNOW Dave and Kate do each of these things consistently, and they have very well adjusted kids.  Taking time for "just the two of you" also provides healthy modeling to children about partnership.  That one-on-one time feeds both of you, and allows you to have more to give when you're with the family.  2. Work as a TEAM.....communicate, communicate, communicate.....act as one.  How many problems result from a breakdown in communication?  "Your partner can't hear what you don't say".  Communication is ESSENTIAL...and it perpetuates deeper  understanding, intimacy, attaining goals and creates consistency with the children.  Whatever level of communication you have with your partner right now, DOUBLE IT...and notice the result.   3. Reduce expectations, learn to give more than you ever expect to receive back.   What a great piece of philosophy that ties in with last week's article on SELFLESS CONTRIBUTION.  When we come to a relationship to GET, you'll always be disappointed. Finding the joy in giving, and not expecting to receive it all back creates freedom, and takes the pressure off of your partner to perform.  4. Show affection in front of the kids........don't "turn it off completely" when they're around.  They got in trouble for kissing at Sam's LaCrosse game 2 weeks ago!  I know several couples who have been married for 18+ who are still affection with others in public...and it feels that they are newlyweds.  Why not enjoy that connection for a lifetime??  5. Have a great tolerance for change and being off balance.  You're going to experience change and be off balance when it comes to juggling careers, kids and private time.  EMBRACE REALITY and ACCEPT it for what it is it is, without resisting it.    Thank you Dave for sharing your wisdom and experience!

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"I HOPE SO" My friend Ann was recently given a transfer to California, and her two boys are still living back in Salt Lake City with their Dad until the house sells.  Each time she gets off the phone with her five-year old Michael she says, "The next time I'm going to see you, I'm going to put kisses all over your face". Two weeks ago, she was hanging up and said, "The next time I see you, I'm going to put kisses ALL over your face."  And, Michael responded sweetly, "I hope so".  Share a Magic Moment of yours.....email mary@lifecoachmary.com .

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Mary Allen, CPCC, PCC - Business and Life Fulfillment Coach for individuals "who want to make Quantum Leaps in their lives" www.LifeCoachMary.com.  I enjoy working with progressive individuals who want to push the edges of what's possible in creating the results they desire while simultaneously enjoying their lives to the fullest.  Take your level of success and fulfillment to the next level of possibility.... Email mary@lifecoachmary.com if you're ready for more in your life.

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